Doesn’t it often feel like society has a crazy timeline for women when it comes to sexuality?  We’re expected to bear children by a certain age, and we’re also expected to cease being sexy as we get older, like there’s some kind of expiration date.  I’m happy to say that more and more women are throwing this timeline to the wind and charting their own paths! Many women are enjoying motherhood later in life in order to pursue other dreams first. And those beyond menopause are reclaiming their sexual selves, taking pleasure in vibrant, active sex lives. And that’s as it should be.  Though the focus of a woman’s sexual life will shift over time, nature has given both men and women the ability to enjoy sexual pleasure for the duration of our lives!

The truth is, sexuality and sensuality can change considerably for a woman throughout her life. At some points feeling sexy comes easily, and at other times being in touch with our sexual selves is the last thing on the to-do list. This may be a result of a loss of libido, painful intercourse, fear of pregnancy or STD’s, or stress regarding infertility. Any way you look at it, women’s sexual needs and desires fluctuate naturally with time. And I’ve seen that an honest discussion about these matters can dramatically change a woman’s quality of life and help prevent unwanted health problems.

Struggles with fertility are a reality for many women, but they don’t have to become insurmountable issues.  Fertility, in the conventional sense, may not be an option for some women or it may not happen when they thought it would. But there are many avenues to explore within and outside your own body when it comes to fertility. We have helped lots of women get to their final destinations, whether that means becoming a mother or not. Some women reach the end of their fertility with great relief. They welcome the cessation of menstrual periods and the hassle of birth control, but aren’t sure what their sex lives will look or feel like in this new terrain.

The bottom line is that when it comes to our sexual selves, women are faced with overwhelming expectations. It’s natural to ask questions. I encourage you to do so, and to become as informed as possible. From questions about masturbation and low libido to the mind-body connection in fertility, we’ve been listening and providing advice on women’s sexual health and fertility for many years. is a comfortable place for you to explore this sensitive subject and find answers to some of the questions you may have been afraid to ask.  Read more about this topic in our other articles.